Caution: Don’t proceed with reading this if you’re a boring vanilla-sex person!
It’s completely okay to be one of those people who enjoy the good old classic vanilla sex. Since life is too short to pull off just plain boring stuff; you can do a BDSM test and discover whether you’re a BDSM freak in the sheets.
According to a survey conducted in 2015 by a renowned condom brand, it was found that almost 20% of millennials enjoy indulging in BDSM regularly.
It is true that many people are not comfortable with the idea of BDSM. Even if you don’t see yourself as someone who will enjoy being dominated by whips and chains, it’s never too late to give it a shot and try something exciting. What if you end up enjoying the kinky stuff? When it comes to having good sex and getting turned-on like crazy, some things get one in the mood all hot & bothered.
Signs that You’re Kinky in Bed
If you’ve ever tried (intentionally or unintentionally) & thoroughly enjoyed any of these things during a sexual encounter then you’re most likely to be a BDSM freak.
- Pinching your partner’s nipples
- Spanked your lover’s butt
- Like getting rough and aggressive in bed
- Gave hickeys on your partner’s neck and other parts of the body
- Loved getting controlled and dominated
- Tried ‘Pretend & Play’ involving your favourite character
- Reenacted a steamy sex scenario
- Tied up your lover in bed
- Blindfolded your lover and surprised him/her
- Asked your partner to perform a certain act on you
Not just these, there is a lot more to this fantasy-filled world of BDSM. If any of the above-mentioned stuff seems familiar then you’ve already made your way into this amazing world of kink. It is never too late to dive headfirst into the details of what this term means and how you can make it work for you. Opening up about your deeply desired kinks & fetishes is thrilling and will increase the odds that your partner will open up too. Pushing aside the fear of negative response or being judged, you can maybe talk to your lover about the best sex you had with them. Sharing what you find erotic and fun will help him/her get comfortable enough to express their particular kinks too without getting ashamed of it.
What is BDSM?
The ‘B’ and ‘D’ in the term BDSM stands for Bondage and Discipline. Bondage refers to the act of pinning your partner to the bed. For this purpose, you could use a silk scarf or fancy handcuffs. This is just to restrict your partner from moving and let them enjoy being dominated by you.
Discipline comes into play when you make use of devices such as whips to physically punish your partner as much as he would happily enjoy. Watching dirty scenes together, turning them on and teasing while denying sex is one way to go about it.
The ‘S’ and ‘M’ in BDSM stands for ‘Sadism’ and ‘Machoism’. In most cases, people get sexually satisfied when there’s a combination of pain and pleasure. All thanks to ‘50 Shades of Gray’ for introducing & spreading the concept widely. The use of whips, belts and chains is now quite common. Even pouring hot candle wax is an excruciating pleasure for a lot of women out there. It does include all the physical punishment you get during the sexual encounter including bruises and bites. Acting out a steamy sex scenario or a hot nurse-patient fantasy is also fascinating at times.
The best thing is you can try BDSM anywhere. If you’re in an LDR, you can simply dominate your partner and perform all your dirty acts and kinks via a virtual video call.
Lastly, no matter what kink or fetish floats your boat; just make sure you & your partner are on the same page. You should talk about consent, level of intensity and a mutually chosen ‘safe word’ before you begin.
